No, it just feels like that because you can't keep it up anymore.

Yup. Like, I know I knew this at one point and can't remember the details to save my life. I remember doing the deep dive. I remember enjoying it and feeling energized by it. And now I'm standing here word vomiting bs and repeating "I know I looked it up once"

That sounds awful. I dunno. I mean, at the heart of it all, on some level you're allowing him to continue this behavior by going to him each time. If you don't go, he has to either keep calling until you give in, or if you don't give in, he can get pouty about it, yell about it, or eventually come and actually find you.

If you stand your ground and refuse, eventually he has to change his behavior. But, getting to that point will be very uncomfortable. So the question is, how much do you want things to change? Are you willing to go through that discomfort to get your needs met?

What does he do if you stay where you're at and ask what he wants you for?

Not new, but my biggest one is physically placing things I need to remember in the path of my daily routine. Like if I need to remember to bring my laptop to work, I might put my computer mouse in my shoe.

Another one is moving things in stages. If I'm cleaning my living room and something needs to go upstairs, I'll just leave it on the stairs for the next time I go up. Otherwise I'm likely to get distracted when I get up there and forget to continue cleaning downstairs.

I also try to have multiples of things that I use in multiple rooms or places. Like a small trashcan in all my rooms so I don't have to go somewhere else to throw it away. It minimizes distractions and helps me stay focused on the current task.

That's a regional thing I think. I've never seen it in the US. But it seems like they are hell bent on obfuscating information wherever possible.

I looked up this article about it after googling the lyrics. Sounds like there was much more backlash after the music video dropped which has now been pulled from some streaming sites.

The bigger controversy was filming at a courthouse famous for lynching and using BLM protest footage in the video.

As a side note, there were babies on that plane in those temperatures for that long!?

That was my thought too, that's deadly for babies and children. I'm astounded.

Lordy, you'll never learn them all. I'd be surprised if I've learned 20, and I consider myself an intermediate player. But like I said, you can do a LOT with a little. And once you have the ground work, you get to decide where you want to go next with it. There's so many different ways and styles to play. Just find stuff that's fun and easy to start with. That'll help keep you motivated.

Not dumb at all, it's a very honest beginner question.

To start with, I recommend finding a song that you want to work at that has 3-4 chords, work on that until you can fairly confidently chord shift between those and then start adding more. The next several songs you work on should have 1-2 new chords outside of your base 3-4. [I've found Ultimate-Guitar to be a good resource due to sheer volume]

For beginning chords, these are very useful major chords: C,G,D,A. useful minor: Am, Em. I like these because they are everywhere and they're easier to learn. When you move on to your next step, I'd start adding in bar-chords. So: F,F#m,B,Bm

For strumming, typically you strum all the strings individually, but in succession. Just sweep the pick across the strings. Experiment with angles, pick stiffness, how hard/loose you hold it. I'd start with either just all down strums, or a down/up/down/up thing. Wait to go any more complicated than that until you feel more comfortable maintaining your timing during chord changes. Then when you're confident with your chord progression, find some strumming patterns you like to play around with. But honestly, if you find one strumming pattern that is a step above the basics and you have 5-6 chords to work with, you can play a LOT of songs, and non-musicians will think you're amazing.

Swing Swing The D/F# is a little more than I'd recommend for a beginner, but this would be a good second step song.

Damn Regret Has a bar F in it, but you can also cheat that a little, you can scroll through the fingering options, and 2 of 16 doesn't use the full bar chord. Just make sure you're not playing the strings with 'x' over them.

Closing Time Not one of the bands you listed, Bb,Ab,Eb,Cm are only in a small spot in the bridge, and you can play the song without those.

Beginning guitar can be demotivating because there's so much to focus on at once. You're trying to learn a new hand shape, you're trying to focus on holding down each string so you're not buzzing, you're trying to make sure you're not touching other strings so you're not muting the chord. Then doing the same thing with the next chord. And on top of that, throw in strumming or picking, and then singing a different rhythm over all that complexity - the whole process can very quickly feel like too much. So give yourself permission to be bad at one part while you're focusing on another. Pick your first songs to be simple and that energize you and make you want to practice and find the next thing.

Interesting, maybe I shouldn't be surprised, humans haven't changed much over the eons.

Any recommendations for true disaster videos? That sounds y up my alley.

It concerns me that we're seeing this more and more in industry. Middle fingers to regulations because when you have enough money, it doesn't matter.

And it took AN HOUR per ant AFTER getting the process down. This person spent over an entire work week shaving ants.

I'm just imagining dinner conversation with their partner that week discussing their progress for the day.

For the curious:

Speaking to MailOnline, Willot confirmed this 'was indeed a tricky procedure. They are very reactive and won't stop struggling once caught, preventing any shaving attempt if not anaesthetised.'

This was done by exposing the ants for a few seconds to carbon dioxide, then strapping them down firmly.

Hairs were removed using a high-power binocular telescope and a very sharp blade.

'It's the same as shaving your own chin: the scalpel blade has to move in the opposite direction of the hair's growth. It has to be a delicate and gentle motion,' said Willot.

After practising on large soldier ants, he found that a smaller worker ant could be entirely shaved in an hour of delicate work.

He estimates around 40 ants were shaved altogether to produce seven good examples for the experiments.

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To what end, I wonder?

I feel like it has to be financially motivated and the only thing I can think of is they want users paying for premium directly rather than having it gifted from a different accounting bucket. But that doesn't seem like strong enough motivation on the surface.

That's interesting, I'm a little on the fence about it.

On the one hand, absolutely having fewer references to slut shaming is healing for women, especially after she has self described herself as a lightening rod for slut shaming while she was dating normally in her early twenties. One thousand percent, yes, change it.

What I think it misses out on a bit is that in that age of life when people are trying to figure themselves out, there's a sadness and hurt that comes out of feeling like you're not good enough because you're not ready to be sexual with someone yet. And it can be extra hurtful if the someone who is supposed to love you is lured away by someone who is ready.

Buuuttttt - on the other hand again, the boy is the one who left for that. And blaming a woman for your man leaving is misplaced blame.

I guess I've talked myself into being on your side.

The original makes sense for the time in her life that it was written, and the rewrite makes sense as an adult reflecting back on her feelings, perhaps wishing to undo some toxic naivety.

I brush mine in the shower.

The youngest of the patients at Alcor is two-year-old Matheryn Naovaratpong, a Thai girl with brain cancer, who was cryopreserved in 2015, reports Reuters.

“Both her parents were doctors, and she had multiple brain surgeries,” More tells the publication. “Nothing worked, unfortunately. So, they contacted us.”

This is a bit chilling. How do you begin to move on with your lifeif you're holding out hope that your loved one will be revived one day? What happens to this girl's body once her parents die? What happens if they beat the odds and master cryo and the girl gets revived in 100 years? That sounds incredibly traumatic.

This article does a pretty good job of explaining why it's not a good thing.

I'm primarily a lurker. I've been trying to be better about participating lately because I'd like to help the fediverse grow and be a meaningful online meeting place.

Why are they collecting financial information??

And it's not like we learn this stuff in school. It's not written out anywhere. We have to rely on word of mouth, people with experience, or people like the commenter above you who are familiar with the ins and outs.

The bottom line is that it is complicated on purpose and designed to wear you out so you don't get coverage for your most basic human needs - like peeing without your urethra being on fire.

Oh very cool! I've never seen this one before 💕

I find myself making fun of the engineering, but I think it's a defense mechanism. I've had a pretty strong interest in the Titanic since I was a kid, and if I were offered the opportunity to see it, I think I'd be more likely to go. And it's scary to think I'd end up on a vessel that wasn't designed to do the thing it advertised it can.

How much did the people who went actually know about the sub they were on? How common is it to sign a waiver about dying to go on a commercial sub?

It's easy to laugh with hindsight, but it's scary to think what could have happened if I were in the position to choose to go.

Technically, they don't require any certifications in international waters, and that's how he side stepped it. The glass was only rated for 1300m. The sub was only rated for 3000m. (Titanic sits about 4000m) They built it from carbon fiber which is good under tension, but terrible under compression... The lack of engineering in this thing was astounding and I'm surprised it lasted as long as it did.

The moments before the implosion were something that no one should ever need to feel in their lives.

Just to this point - it would have happened too fast for them to even register anything was happening. Complete destruction would occur in 1/20th of a second. (Per Insider/Naval History Magazine)

That's my theory too. He's acting like a cornered animal and needs to drive traffic back to reddit. What better way to do that than to break the website power users have been migrating to and advertising on Reddit?

Then June 30 the straggling migrants still holding out til the end will come over to a broken website.

I think spez hopes that their broken spirit and desperation will help drive people back to reddit, but a bot influx this huge, he must be legitimately worried.

It could also be spez bootlickers, but I would be shocked if someone who had the same knowhow to build a bot army was simultaneously stupid enough to not see the bigger picture happening at corporate.

57M * 8:31 = 485.4M minutes 53M * 7:17 = 386.0M minutes 386.0 / 485.4 = 79.5%

If those numbers are right, reddit's engagement time dropped 20% by the end of the blackout.

I doubt it's that low now, but it is having an impact on their bottom line.

Beautiful chaos

Why not just program a bot to crawl their site looking for any string that says "lemmy" or "l e m m y" or what have you? I'd think it's be easy for them to do, the bigger question is what kind of backlash they would get for it.

I'd be more worried about martyring lemmy on Reddit which would just force more traffic over here imo.

Or maybe they dont think Lemmy is actually a threat.

Can you reschedule the surgery?

Awesome! I love what you've done with it 😍 the shorter branches really seem to fit better and babe the trunk look thicker.

There's an app for the 15C

This is the third picture of calculators I have seen in a week - sorry I'm having a moment here.

One of my best friends sent me pictures of his calculators, my dad sent me a picture of his calculator and now this.

I ain't mad, it's beautiful really. I love it. There's so much nostalgia in these and I love it.

But it's really made me question who I am as a person that I've gotten this multiple times now.

I tried a weighted blanket once and never stopped. I had to travel for work and told myself it was silly to bring it, but then had a hard time sleeping without it. I added makeshift weight to my bedding - all the hotel towels, extra blanket, fake couch rug thing, and vowed I'd just travel with heavy luggage from now on.

I have taped my phone number to my monitor so that if I have to leave an unexpected voicemail, I can read it. Every. Time.

It used to take me most of the day to script and get up the courage to make a phone call, and if I unexpectedly got voicemail, I'd have to hang up, script a voicemail and call back to leave it. I've at least done it enough and listened to how others do it enough that I can do it now. But I still email way more, only call when I have to, and now worry about whether it will be the right time of day or.in the right point of their workflow for me to call. 🤦‍♀️

To add on to this - computers used to run on DOS commands. What made them mainstream was creating a UI which allowed a layperson to use it. So now a graphic designer can focus on artwork rather than needing to understand computer backend.

Similarly, we're floating around windows '93 or something.

The way I see - we're the early adopters who can both see the potential and can also affect real change. We'll be the ones paving the way for future users. For me, figuring out how software works is like a puzzle to me and I find it fun. However, my sibling would find this site completely unusable because their brain doesn't find this fun, they find this sort of thing overwhelming and complicated.

I'd love to see a mass migration, but without some more user-friendly tools, it's going to be us nerdy folks having fun in our new sandbox.

I’m not going to insult people for being ignorant about something, because that’s literally the default state of being a person.

Well stated. I try to keep this in mind, or assume this until proven otherwise.

I thought I heard recently there was talk about making the fediverse API more friendly towards existing 3p reddit apps so that it wouldn't be as much work. Though I can't recall a source atm. I'd be curious to see if that did happen if the 3p devs would make the change.

Is AI capable of this? My gut is that there is still too much nuance for AI to be successful, that it won't be able to adapt to changing circumstances as a subreddit community evolves for example. Are we at that point with AI technology?