polyamory polyamory Is the polyam community at large feeling more ethical or less ethical to you lately?
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    4 weeks ago 100%

    See, I used to live in an area with a big polyamory community. Most of us were gay or trans or both. Befriending just one person led you to a whole group of entanglement. Swiping with poly people on tinder led me to people I didn't know yet, but maybe I knew their partners or friends of partners or some other entanglement. They were like my found family. I really miss them all.

    I moved to a brand new area, and started swiping. I put that I'm poly in my profile. I swiped on some potato who said they were poly. I figured that was my way into find some group. I met the potato, and their partner carrot shows up in the middle. They leave together. Potato blocks me. Carrot starts interviewing me on another platform I had never even giving to potato. Like dang, I didn't know it was like that. That interaction freaked me out and I haven't been talking to anyone since.

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  • housing_bubble_2 Housing Bubble 2: Return of the Ugly People living alone and cohabitation growing.
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    2 months ago 100%

    But, like ... most people don't want that shit. They want to live with the people they love and can cohabitate with.

    What do you think a found family is if not people you love and can cohabitate with? I don't have to be related to people to care about them and want to be around them.

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  • coolguides Cool Guides A cool guide to Japanese Emoticons
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    2 months ago 100%

    (o_o) (0_0) (O_O)

    I think zero or lowercase o is more "seriously?" and capital O is more "amazed."

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  • microblogmemes Microblog Memes What did your parents refrigerate? Mine refrigerated bread.
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    3 months ago 100%

    You don't need to refrigerate apples and oranges? Just leave them in the counter for easy snacking.

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  • games Games Are there any good casual/low-stress mobile games that aren't filled with microtransactions?
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    3 months ago 100%

    This isn't exactly what you asked, but I highly recommend emulation. I have had ePSXe downloaded on every phone I've had for the past ten years to play PS1 games. There are so many good titles, all of them free, playable offline. You might like Intelligent Qube Mr. Driller Devil Dice for puzzles. I love playing final fantasy, legend of dragoon, suikoden, Spyro, crash bandicoot. I don't care about graphics, but I am a sucker for playing through a story.

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  • crochet Crochet Almost finished with my 'never again' project
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    6 months ago 100%

    It is planned pooling as other people have mentioned. This is the yarn that I used. It's been about a year making this blanket. It's not as complicated as you describe, but the hardest part is maintaining just the right amount of tension. In total, I probably undid the whole blanket once or twice before I finished it, trying to get the tension perfect.

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    Almost finished with my 'never again' project

    Is the border substantial enough? Or should I add more? ![](https://i.imgur.com/DgwhmRB.jpeg) ![](https://i.imgur.com/qC43SGs.jpeg)

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    196 196 Enginee(r)ule
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    6 months ago 100%

    See, I wanted to major in math over engineering because engineering has less math. My husband is an engineer and he does very little math on a daily basis. The software does all the calculations when he runs simulations.

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  • asklemmy Ask Lemmy What's the dumbest nickname you've ever given one of your pets?
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    7 months ago 100%

    I named my cat Luphina. I thought it was so pretty. The name that stuck was Luphy. My husband calls her Monkey D Luffy.

    We call her Luphy Loaf too.

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  • trans Trans When did you first start feeling gender dysphoria?
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    The first time I can look back at growing up and pinpoint dysphoria was the onset of puberty. It felt so wrong, like it shouldn't have been happening to me. I felt trapped in someone else's body. I remember reading the diary of Ann Frank, and she was happy to get her period and be a woman. That concept was so foreign to me. Why would anyone want to be a woman if they didn't have to? I got a period, and I felt dread. I knew my mom had a hysterectomy, and I knew that's exactly what I wanted as soon as possible. I have always known that I would get sterilized. The thought of birthing children and getting pregnant made me feel sick and uneasy. I wished it weren't possible. I wished I didn't have to.

    As I grew to be a "woman," I had a deep hatred for what I felt I had to be. I didn't want to be a man. I just wanted to be a default person. I didn't want to be perceived masculine or feminine. When I was a young child, I didn't feel like a pretty little girl. I felt like just a kid. A lot of girls played with other girls and boys with other boys. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, but is that dysphoria or is that growing up as an outsider?

    I remember thinking about cutting out my uterus while it was bleeding. I felt it shouldn't be there, and I needed to get rid of it. That was totally dysphoria. There's nothing like that when I was younger that I can remember.

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy [serious] What are your most important boundaries you've learned to enforce?
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    9 months ago 100%

    If you are a giving person, you have to put a limit on how much you can give. Takers have no limit.

    I have to remember to look out for myself because even though I'm trying to look out for a lot of people I care about, no one is looking out for me.

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  • nonbinary Nonbinary *Permanently Deleted*
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    Keep advocating for yourself. Don't let anyone convince you that you have to take whatever hormones or have whatever surgery. My transition worked out way better when I found a doctor willing to listen to my troubles and recommended treatment that aligned with my goals. I think surgery saved my life. I had 3 suicide attempts before it and 0 since. The difference in the quality of life is like night and day.

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    It's seriously so stupid. I wish people by default didn't have a gender and got to pick instead of being assigned one at birth. My puberty landed me in the hospital. My sex organs are just completely fucked. I'd been in pain regularly for 13 years, complaining to so many doctors that just didn't take me seriously. I wasn't even out as nonbinary the whole time, only the past three years. I got bottom surgery this summer and I don't take hormones anymore. I used to diy hormones because it's just too god damn hard to get the prescribed. I asked my GP for a referral to the most liberal doctor that would give me that surgery, but there was a lot of failure before that.

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    How to keep going when you feel your weight loss isn't "good enough"

    I made a new year's resolution this year to lose weight. I started at 265 at the beginning of the year. I have been making a lot of changes to my lifestyle, and I've been working really hard and very slowly losing weight. I am at 246 today, and I feel like my progress isn't good enough. I spent 10 months really trying, and for what? Not even twenty pounds? I don't really feel or look a lot different. I put in so much work and I feel really discouraged from continuing. How do you keep going? I feel like I'll never get to a healthy weight.

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    autism Autism Does anyone wish they had a pet but also know that taking care of a pet is too much executive functioning for them right now?
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    I have some things to help me take care of my pets. I have an automatic litterbox that scoops itself and gives me a notification to empty it. I have an automatic feeder that feeds my cats three times a day so I don't forget. I have a water fountain that I refill and clean weekly. I used to be very forgetful or struggle to make my mind do the tasks to take care of my pets, and I felt really bad about it. Now, most of the time I spend taking care of my cats is brushing them, petting them, and just hanging out with them. These items weren't cheap, but to me, they're worth every penny.

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  • news News Gen Z And The Great Office Debate Won’t End In 2023
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    Remote learning has had a devastating effect on education. Gen Z's time in college and high school was royally fucked by the pandemic. It's no wonder why they would be less interested in remote work, not because they're "old souls."

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    Porn addiction is real, and watching porn can have more harm than just puritanical bullshit. Most people that I've watched looking at porn don't just find a video a watch it start to finish. They watch multiple videos, fast forwarding to their favorite parts. Delayed gratification is good for you. Also, porn doesn't accurately depict what sex is like. It can give you fucked up expectations of what sex should be.

    If you watch so much porn that you can't have an orgasm without watching it, if you are only aroused by porn that can't exist in real life, if you stop having sex with a partner to instead only masturbate to porn, if you find yourself constantly watching porn even at inappropriate times, if the amount of porn you watch decreases your quality of life... That's addiction.

    I think that masturbating is healthy and good for human sexuality, but I think a lot of people could benefit from masturbating differently. Try reading or using your imagination or even just masturbating meditatively, focusing on sensations.

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  • mildlyinteresting Mildly Interesting My grandfather was an aircraft inspector for De Havilland in WWII. This is one of the notebooks he used to study for the job. He drew all the pictures.
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    socialanxiety Socialanxiety About the frequency of contact to others
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    I moved to a new state a month ago, and I haven't made any new friends yet. Before, I had weekly scheduled hangouts. I usually always contact my friends first, but sometimes someone will send me a meme without warning. Usually, I text people a dad joke, and I talk to them about stuff. My only complaint is that I don't see anyone anymore because I live in a new state. I want to start weekly board game nights back up. The more I reach out to my friends, the more they connect with me.

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  • imadethis I Made This I made this three years ago and it's still making me laugh
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    asklemmy Asklemmy What's some really unpopular opinion you have?
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    Homosexual is attraction to the same gender; heterosexual is attraction to a different gender. The bi in bisexual is both of these, not attraction to two genders. Think of the bi flag, pink, purple, and blue: what do you think the colors represent? Nonbinary people have always been included in bisexual if you take some time to think about.

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy What's some really unpopular opinion you have?
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    Read the bisexual manifesto. Bi has always included nonbinary people. If you are attracted to all genders, both bisexual and pansexual are valid labels you can choose.

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  • the_dunk_tank the_dunk_tank This person doesn't understand color theory, and light.
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    If we perceive senses the same way, why do some people disagree about what colors go together or if something tastes good?

    If the internal experience of the sense is the same, why would anyone have different tastes?

    When people like different things, is it entirely arbitrary? Or is it because they perceive the internal sensation differently?

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    Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.

    Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi

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    There's so many great things about this: the text, the fact that the snapping also has a hard hat on, and the arrow that indicates which way you're supposed to look.

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  • fuckcars Fuck Cars Fuck SUVs in particular.
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    I recently moved to a state where there are so many giant vehicles, and I drive a compact car. The front of the hood of an f-150 is as tall as my entire car. I feel like I'm the closest to the ground out of all the cars on the highway. You see all these big trucks and SUVs having a hard time maneuvering in parking lots. Why do all these people need such giant vehicles? Gas is expensive enough in my little tiny car, is the worse mileage even worth it?

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