amitheasshole Am I the Asshole? **Update: Karen Brigade at the dog park**
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    They are well taken care of. There are tons of thistles and sunflowers on the other side of the fence.

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  • programmerhumor Programmer Humor Alphabetically sorted months. But WHY?
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    I'd believe that, if they weren't already paying the architect salary to have us do interior design. They hire us, then shackle us.

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  • science Science Pets do not significantly benefit the emotional health of owners with severe mental illness, study shows
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    I love cats, but I'm even more wildly allergic to them. I not allergic to horses and to sheep, and that's about it. But it takes more than a wish to own either of those.

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    Haha! Exactly! I do some coding, too, but I can't think like a UXer and a dev at the same time.

    It's the "making it pretty" part that makes me bitter. That is the LEAST part of what we do.

    It's like asking an architect to come in and fix the building after it's already mostly built. Bad PMs insist on seeing us like interior decorators, but we are primarily architects.

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    Speaking as a UX designer, probably because some "product manager" decided it was too expensive to override the auto- sort that was applied before the designer was brought in to "pretty things up."

    There is no tone of bitterness in my comment, honestly there isn't.

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  • creepywikipedia Creepy Wikipedia X-Seed 4000 - The tallest building ever designed but was "never meant to be built"
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    I'm pretty sure there was an ancient story about this being a very bad idea. Something about languages....

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    As a UX designer who decided not to be a doctor though I could have, I don't think this is how it works.

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    This is anecdotal, but I've loved animals my entire life. I was going to be a vet, but changed careers because my internship made me afraid it would ruin my love of animals.

    I've had a very rough twenty years. I was married to a man who turned out was abusive to animals, so I gave up my dream of having pets. When I bucked my entire culture to divorce him, I fought my way back to enough financial security to own them again.

    My first pet was 5 when I got him. I had three years of his endless health problems, but I loved him and he died. Then I got a couple of puppies and I love them, but...I don't think I'll own any more dogs. Dealing with other pet owners has been a nightmare. Off leash, poorly trained, outright dangerous dogs everywhere.

    But even more to the point, I'm a terrible owner for them. I'm allergic, so I only play with them before my shower. And my mental health has me barely able to function some days. And I'll never be able to own the property they need to truly flourish. They deserve better than me. So I agree. Poor mental health can be exacerbated by pet ownership.

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  • random Random What misconceptions do you wish didn't exist about a group you belong to?
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    This is exactly what I meant!

    Thanks.

    It is amazing how politics can be so affected by a border change.

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  • amitheasshole Am I the Asshole? **Update: Karen Brigade at the dog park**
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    @Little8Lost Don't worry, there are miles and miles of walking/bike path nearby that go through as many weeds as your heart could possibly love.

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    **Update: Karen Brigade at the dog park**

    **Update: Karen Brigade at the dog park** So, the Karen came after me again today, AND I heard from the park people. She came after me twice, screaming about committing a felony and police calls and having me on video. I told her to stop harassing me and to leave me alone, I also mocked her to the extent of my morning brain's capacity. Spoiler: she didn't leave me alone. An animal control officer got back to me, and after the required transfers and telling my ridiculous story multiple times, was told that they have no idea which government body is supposed to be in charge of setting the rules. However, the park office team that maintains it said nothing but gravel is supposed to be in that area of the park, and they have entered a work order to officially remove ALL the weeds. So now there will be no more sunflowers, fox tails, thistles, or other weeds. Super big win, because I couldn't pull all the fox tails myself. The park office will get back to me after the holiday with any info they can dig up about who actually sets the rules for that particular park, but the issue is as settled as it is going to get. The official on the phone said she hopes that having an official team remove all the weeds will get the Karens to leave me alone, and the animal control officer said if she comes after me again to not hesitate to call dispatch for harassment. I did snap a pic of the sign and of her license plate, in case I end up skewered in a ditch somewhere. Hopefully I have properly applied the metaphorical blood on my lintel, and the Weed Avenger can pass by and leave me alone henceforth. [\#amitheasshole](https://kbin.social/tag/amitheasshole)

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    **AITA for ripping up wildflowers and stirring up the Karen brigade?**

    **AITA for ripping up wildflowers and stirring up the Karen brigade?** I'll try to keep this short. A local dog park has three areas, two of which are for large/ active dogs. The front area is watered, grass, and maintained. The back area is gravel, and the weeds are allowed to grow at will. This part of the park is surrounded by empty fields on three sides, so the weeds are plentifully available. Some of these weeds are wild sunflowers, which I enjoyed until my dog got stabbed by the dried up stems last year. One stab wound was 12 inches deep, running along the inside of her skin and over the muscle and bone. You could see her ribs in the gash. That was about $800 to fix. The second was more superficial, so I treated it myself. That second time was when I realized what caused the injury. So this year, not wanting any dogs to be injured again, I started slowly ripping up the seedlings as they came in. No one has ever asked me about it. This morning, there was a red marker laminated sign hole punched and zip tied to the fence saying "Please don't pick the sunflowers, other people enjoy them." I laughed it off, and grabbed a couple more sprouts as I was picking up my and others' dogs' poop. A woman passing by said to me "did you see the sign?" I said "yes, it's hilarious," and explained why I was removing them. She said "well, MY dogs enjoy them." I'm a bit slow on the uptake, but as she walked away, I realized it must have been her and this other old lady at the park that I've had situations with before. The other lady started taking pictures or video of me and my dogs. There are no policies or laws posted against what I'm doing that I know of. I reached out to the park office this morning to ask if I should stop, so hopefully they will hear my message and I'll get some info from them. In the meantime, am I a raging AH? It never occurred to me that people would get upset about removing a hazard like that until this "confrontation." [\#amitheasshole](https://kbin.social/tag/amitheasshole)

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    politics politics Biden Says He’s ‘Not Big On Abortion’ Since He's Catholic, But Roe ‘Got It Right
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    explainlikeimfive Explain Like I'm Five ELI5: If you're a Christian, why do you have to be good if Jesus will forgive you no matter what?
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    This is rather like asking Asians why they all eat white rice when brown rice is healthier.

    Not all Christians believe either one of those things. And for those that do, the answer is generally that trying to follow God and be obedient to His will is a sacrifice of gratitude to Him for His sacrifice of salvation.

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  • feminism Feminism Why is a mother serving more time than the man who abused her daughter?
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    feminism Feminism Marco Rubio announces he opposes abortion for rape and incest
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    He's basically saying that the dignity and life of the potential to be a man is more important than the dignity and life of a living woman.

    After all, how dignified is it to birth and raise the child of your rapist, or your brother?

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  • feminism Feminism The origins of sexism: How men came to rule 12,000 years ago
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    Probably because it became less about getting food (where gatherers provided the bulk) and more about protecting the land you have (which required strength.)

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  • feminism Feminism 2 men mansplain what It’s actually like to be a woman
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    Yeah, that's the point I stopped reading because it went totally off the rails. Women have a pretty good handle on what men find attractive. They tell us incessantly. We just don't care, most of the time, because we are born how we are born, and eat how we eat, and care more about being comfortable in our own skin than with what men think of us.

    I don't have an issue with men writing it, but I do have an issue with the patronizing attitude, the condescension. These guys still don't get it, and if they simplified on purpose, they took it too far.

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  • feminism Feminism Why Losers Like Steven Crowder Hate No-Fault Divorce
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    I filed for no-fault divorce at the advice of my lawyer, despite clear evidence of abuse and infidelity. It hurt, emotionally, because it felt like a lie. But now I understand my lawyer was looking out for me. I would have been in much more danger publicly calling out his behavior.

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  • feminism Feminism States With Abortion Bans Are Losing a Generation of Ob-Gyns
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    Sadly, this is paywalled.

    But I'm guessing we haven't seen the end of awful consequences of the government getting this involved in medical decisions.

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  • RedditMigration Reddit Migration r/Blind's Meetings with Reddit and the Current Situation Regarding Accessibility and API Changes
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    As a UX designer with a specialty in accessibility, I'd break up requirements even smaller. Accessibility is an ongoing process (like security,) not an achievement.

    A dev can get pretty far just using Lighthouse to audit code, then running through with a free screen reader and with keyboard only. But accessibility can seem daunting if you try to make it one huge ticket.

    The best way in my mind is to build basic accessibility testing into every ticket, the way you should do with security concerns, and then have a designer or QA run periodic audits to generate specific update tickets.

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  • lemmyworld Lemmy.World Announcements Reddit CEO Digs In Heels As User Outrage Engulfs Website
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    What he didn't bank on is a lot of power users were already getting sick of wading through ads and dealing with mass idiocy. I mean, mass idiocy will move with the masses, you can't really get away from it. But add a power-hungry megalomaniac to the mix of an already irritated user base, and it's not pretty. Frankly, Reddit can keep the kind of users who are willing to stay there. Hopefully that will keep other communities cleaner.

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    His fat mouth got me to download a Chrome extension for the sole purpose of excluding Reddit from my search results. Even Pinterest didn't get me that far.

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  • RedditMigration Reddit Migration Replacing the entire moderation team of 5000+ subs is not a practical solution and Reddit admins know it
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    I did it, albeit a very small community. I cared enough about the topic to give other people dealing with similar things some space to build a community. Mine was luckily mostly dead, since I don't care about building a base or keeping it going, but it served well for its time. Anyone who thinks modding is anything but a labor of love doesn't make for a very good mod.

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    Take deep breaths. Mostly, remember that you are interviewing the company as much as they are interviewing you. Having a crappy job is just as demoralizing as having no job.

    You got this.

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