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Betterment and Praxis Wigglet 1 year ago 100%
Monthly Personal Betterment Thread

I saw a lot of interest in personal growth and betterment so this is the place to tell us what you're proud of and hype up other community members 💚

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Betterment and Praxis Wigglet 1 year ago 100%
kia ora koutou! welcome everyone 🐝

So happy so many of you are also interested in finding, sharing, and discussing new ways to better our communities! I hope everyone finds inspiration here and we all get to brighten up our little corners of the world. I would love to hear from people about what is working in your community. What does your community have or do that you think is going well? (Maybe its a neat festival. Maybe it's a community centre like a workshop or garden. Share the ideas!) What small things have you done that you would like to do more of? (Cleaned up rubbish on the beach? Planted some trees? Helped with a fundraiser or event? Good on you, we're all proud! Tell us so we can all get motivated to go out and do the same) What are you wanting for your community? (Maybe its helping with food insecurity, maybe its cleaning up parks or planting trees, maybe it's better public transport) No task is too big or too small to share, this is a place of positivity and celebration ✨️ [Here's an article](https://www.shareable.net/how-to-start-a-tool-library/) with links to resources on starting your own library of things. It's US centric but still has good ideas I've been stealing for getting ours organised

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Betterment and Praxis Powderhorn 2 months ago 100%
The Dangers of Oversharing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xukDLGItLOM

I found this interesting and relevant. Nothing actionable, but oddly comforting.

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Betterment and Praxis Powderhorn 3 months ago 100%
The Answer is Not a Hut in the Woods https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PK2SMIOHYig

Covers way more than just the title, but an interesting experiential take.

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Betterment and Praxis sexy_peach 4 months ago 100%
How to clean your flat or house https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hE_6O96wVmw

Pretty cool guide. The guy says that he only recently realized that cleaning isn't intuitive so people need to be taught. This is for people who maybe haven't been taught how to clean or want to freshen up on their skills :)

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Betterment and Praxis LinkOpensChest_wav 11 months ago 100%
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Alternatives to calling the police

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how, with things exactly as they are (so, without the community resources, policy changes, and ideas that would ideally exist in the future) I might want to respond to a situation in which I feel threatened. There is not a particularly strong sense of community in my geographic area, and I cannot think of any ‘people i know’ who I would feel comfortable calling for help were I to need it. I’m thinking primarily of abusive people, threats to my safety, dangerous behavior, and the like - I think drugs are a medical issue and being robbed would suck but that’s also not necessarily going to become personal if it’s just about money. Has anyone here read about, or practiced, any methods for deescalating, defending against, or getting out of such situations without having to ask the police? I would like have some of these ideas thought through and waiting in the back of my mind before I actually need them.

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Betterment and Praxis LallyLuckFarm 11 months ago 100%
I genuinely want you all to watch this https://youtu.be/98LdFA-_zfA?si=Ufcel1h7bD5-xhhO

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/8863969 > Folks who know me closely know that I'm kind of a geek for patterns - I see them in behavior, in housing, in gardens and natural structures, everywhere. They are at play all around us at varying levels of scale, and anyone who's ever said "oh this again" can hopefully relate. > > Christopher Alexander (author along with others of *A Pattern Language*, *The Nature of Order*, *Notes on the Synthesis of Form*), the speaker in this video, has been formative in my understanding of patterns in a way few others have. His approach to design as a conduit for improving the lives of people and the world writ large have been an inspiration. > > I want you to forget that he's talking to a room full of programmers. Some of it is abstract, and heady, but think about the patterns in your lives and how even slight alterations to them can influence the course of things. I'm coming to this talk from the aspect of a gardener, of a nursery owner interested in restoration ecology, of someone who wants each of us to have a closer connection to the natural systems at play. Bring who *you* are to this, and (hopefully) let it inspire you. I'll leave you with this quote from the talk (punctuation mine): > > "I want you to help me. I want you to realize that the problem of generating living structure is not being handled by architects or planners or developers or construction people now; there is no way that they're ever going to be able to do that because the methods they use are not capable of it. > > The methods that you have at your fingertips and deal with every day in the normal course of events are perfectly designed to do this ... if you have the interest, you have the capacity, you have the means.... And what I'm proposing here is something a little bit different from that which is a view of ~~programming~~ as the natural genetic infrastructure of a living world which you are capable of creating, managing, making available - and which could then have the result that a living structure - in our towns, houses, workplaces, cities - is an attainable thing. Which it has not been for the last 50 to 100 years. > > That is an incredible thing! I realize that you probably think I'm nuts because this is not what I'm supposed to be talking about to you. And you may say, 'gosh great idea but we're not interested' but I do think you are capable of that and I don't think anybody else is going to do this job.

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Betterment and Praxis lerba 11 months ago 100%
The power of vulnerability | Brené Brown (Ted-talk from 2011) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o

Here's a Ted-talk from 12 years back on the topic of vulnerability as a method of reconnecting with self. Just a refresher for anyone who hasn't seen it yet. Highly recommended!

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Betterment and Praxis StringTheory 11 months ago 100%
Before you post that comment to social media….

… ask yourself these three questions: Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary? Granted we’ve all heard this before, but sometimes we need reminding.

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How do you deal with feeling like you’re not doing enough?

I try to do what I can to make my local community better. I research and vote in every election, donate money to local nonprofits and also volunteer there when I can (heading to the food bank in a bit, yay!), and try to speak out and offer words of encouragement when I can. But I live in a very socially, politically, and religiously conservative community. And I…am not. It constantly feels like any effort amounts to pissing in the wind, and yet also like I am not doing nearly enough at all. It makes me anxious a lot. The latest iteration of this is local people trying to get “obscene” children’s and YA books in the public library moved to the adult section. And to be clear most of these books are not obscene they just acknowledge that, hey people who are LGBTQ+ (sorry if I got that initialization wrong!) exist and that racism is a real thing. I went to the public meeting and was mostly ineffective except I got to thank the library director for her work pushing back against this. I would love to write a Letter to the Editor of the local paper to speak out, but there is a risk of retaliation against my family members and their local businesses. And most of the community seems to be behind this which is absolutely bonkers to me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t even know where I’m going with this. I think I just needed to say it. Anyone else deal with something similar- feeling like you need to do more but also feeling completely defeated about actually getting anything to change?

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Betterment and Praxis alyaza 1 year ago 100%
Clothing Repair - a .pdf on the what, how, and why https://fcs-hes.ca.uky.edu/sites/fcs-hes.ca.uky.edu/files/ct-mmb-147.pdf

from the intro: > Clothing repair and mending can cover a rather wide range of activities varying from those requiring very little skill to those demanding a great deal of sewing skill and expertise. The rewards of mending vary from the self-satisfaction for a job well done to a substantial monetary savings by prolonging the life of a garment. > > The need for clothing repair comes from various sources. Poor initial garment workmanship or construction can be a problem with ready-to-wear as well as handmade items. > > Everyday wear and tear will also take its toll. Poor garment fit can cause a seam to split or a fastener to break. Still other repairs become part of preventive mending, permitting the garment to be worn longer without the need of major repair or recycling. > > Garment repair and mending can require a bit of creativity. Don't be guilty of rushing into a repair job without giving the situation some careful thought and having the necessary tools to see the job through.

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Betterment and Praxis ndondo 1 year ago 100%
Betterment book reccomendations

Hey everyone. I'm curious what books you've found to be useful in your own lives and if you have any reccomendations for us. Mine would be the Compound Effect by Darren Hardy which talks about consistent small actions leading to momentum/habit and driving massive amounts of change.

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Betterment and Praxis Powderhorn 1 year ago 100%
General thoughts on what I've been able to change in the past year

My past couple of posts have been very specific in application, but now that events are set in motion to regain agency, it seems a good time to try to pay forward the lessons I've gained from at this point 14 months. - If your career is part of your identity, cool. But don't bullshit yourself about where you fall, and keep a critical eye on your industry if you're heavily invested. If it's not, don't make life about adapting for a paycheck. - Trying to think about the future while in active addiction is pointless. Job searches necessarily were limited to things I knew I could do and still get shitfaced every night, and my perception thereof dropped precipitously past my mid-20s. - Philosophy is there for when you get stuck, and it's not nearly as dry as in school. I found myself far more forgiving of blurred lines into religion with especially Buddhism than expected. I'd known since my divorce that I wasn't able to start asking the right questions, but philosophy wasn't speaking to me yet. - You are a reflection of the people you surround yourself with. Any self-improvement in negative behaviours can easily lead to resentment from people who still exhibit them, and it is necessary to on a case-by-case basis decide what to do about this friction. One option that must remain on the table is severe curtailment or outright rejection of further communication. Regardless of perceived positives, there is no amount of negativity that underperforms on balance. Your sanity and outlook depend on positive reinforcement. - As a quick add-on, this also applies in parasocial settings. So, if Reddit is your baseline for forum interaction, regardless of how reasonable of a person you are, it's going to feel more appropriate to bring your snark from being online for 30 years ... as a default for every interaction. That mindset doesn't switch on and off and thus spills out into other interaction both online and off. - You are under no obligation to be reachable by anyone during all waking hours. Sure, there are legitimate work reasons, but those are self-evident. I'm talking about rejecting the notion that your phone means you're awaiting contact as a default state. - Shrooms can be a viable method for quieting rumination (allowing new thoughts and ideas to fill that space), putting a lid on addiction and facing very deep assumptions that were never yours. The visuals are fun, too. - Draw boundaries and stick to them. There's no point in wasting energy trying to keep a disrespectful person in your life. - Assess risks and costs accurately when considering actions. Inertia can be really fucking expensive. - Consider where others are on their journeys and always keep Hanlon on hand for the closest shave. Accept that your paths are not intertwined forever. And consider you're the one who's fallen behind. After actually enumerating these, I wouldn't have expected half of self-improvement to be about interaction, but it's not really as surprising in the rear view. You can practice mantras and draw up budgets and all that good stuff, but building a better bubble is not building a better life. Even relatives and close friends can do a lot of damage to confidence that inhibits options. When you're cutting someone off, if doesn't have to be forever (we'll always have email), but it could well be what's stopping you from getting to a place where you can accept them back (or they you). But overall, regaining agency is is about being open to new paths. If the one you have isn't working, you can embark upon an expansive but ultimately futile excursion trying to graft ac-hoc solutions onto it or really get into the weeds about what a reasonable path looks like and start from there. The latter approach seems to be far more useful.

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Betterment and Praxis minishoemaze 1 year ago 100%
Is there a change you'd like to make, but don't know where to start?

There's a lot of things we'd like to get better at, but ideas like "eat healthier" or "get more exercise" can feel lofty and difficult to start. How do you break it down and make those first steps? What's something you'd like to do, but could use a little extra boost to get started?

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Betterment and Praxis Powderhorn 1 year ago 100%
This may be my new home!

I set up alerts on Craigslist for Freightliner MT45s two weeks ago, and something in my price range was finally posted a couple of hours ago. I was already preapproved for a personal loan, so I went through the actual application and landed exactly where I wanted to be for payments by adding the electrical stuff I'll need and stretching the term by a year (no prepayment penalty). For those wondering why the hell I'm posting a truck here, this is the culmination of about seven years of looking into tiny-home living that has veered into vanlife by virtue of climate change accelerating and not wanting to be stuck on a plot of land that may be uninhabitable in very little time. As such, with rent and fees hitting $20K for the year starting September, in addition to the 15% hike eating my entire food budget, the numbers no longer made sense with the sort of pay raises work offers. Thing is, I've been stuck getting emergency jobs for 17 years now while losing purchasing power just to afford housing and survive, and when layoffs come, I'm in the middle of a lease that I have two weeks in July where I can tell them I'm leaving without a $3,000 penalty. Otherwise, the lease forces me into another emergency job, and the cycle repeats anew. I've changed how I approach the world and my expectations from life significantly over the past year, and this is finally a concrete physical step I'm taking toward regaining agency. I will be stripping the interior, installing batteries, solar on the roof, electrical conduit for "oops" wiring changes down the road, insulation and framing, with just plywood walls to start. The beauty of a step van is my current bed will fit, so with those basics, climate control, a toilet and a gym membership for showering, I'll be ready to stop paying rent and then build it out as I have funds to do so, with a shower stall and full-ish (fridge + stove elements + combo microwave/toaster/convection oven) kitchen eventually. I already switched to 5G "home" internet that can hit the road and saves $30 over Charter last weekend, and I reluctantly rehomed my cat Monday in preparation. I wanted to post here because while a significant amount of time needs to be devoted to researching ideas, then methods, being on the other end of that process and knowing what I'm looking for down to the engine and transmission makes actually pulling the trigger surprisingly easy. Much of what I've run into outside of forums devoted to #vanlife talk about all the downsides, and questions I've posed trying to learn more get met with caustic sealioning, so I want to point out that this is a very real, very doable thing. Per the loan terms, I'll pay a total of $19,500 in principal and interest over four years, putting me $500 ahead for just this year, and assuming similar hikes annually, save nearly $80,000 in just the next three years. "But what if you have an unexpected $2,000 repair?" Well, then I'll only be saving $78K. I can have 40 of those in 48 months and still break even vs. throwing my money away to make rich people even richer while never having a net worth.

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Betterment and Praxis bbbhltz 1 year ago 100%
Ending my social media addiction (YouTube video) https://yewtu.be/watch?v=xA1GE38vB4g

Came across this video earlier today. While it mat be long, I found it interesting from the perspective as a millennial to see how serious a younger cohort takes these issues.

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Betterment and Praxis jennifilm 1 year ago 100%
Self-centredness is not self care: losing the human face online https://youtu.be/ess1HfZzxss

[nebula link](https://nebula.tv/videos/olisunvia-the-selfcentred-mindset-disguised-as-selfcare-losing-the-human-face-online/) I’m still working my way through this but thought I’d share - this is a great breakdown of a recent trend on TikTok - framed as not being too nice or not being a people pleaser. This analysis takes a critical approach to this in a real sensitive way, and talks about our philosophical obligations to others - and what we owe to each other (shout out to other good place fans!)

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Betterment and Praxis LallyLuckFarm 1 year ago 100%
Water Quality Fees Board Approves Addition of Tree Canopy Scoring Component to Stormwater Quality Projects Incentive Grants - The Lexington Times https://lexingtonky.news/2023/02/16/water-quality-fees-board-approves-addition-of-tree-canopy-scoring-component-to-infrastructure-stormwater-quality-projects-incentive-grants/

This change happened a few months ago now, but the aspects of the change - incentives for increasing tree cover and the reduction of impervious surfaces in watersheds - are the kind of policy changes we can work to have instituted where each of us are. In addition, including tree planting projects in these programs and giving weight to their inclusion (say, as a scoring component for receiving grants) brings access to historically disadvantaged community groups that don't have the financial power to permit, bid, and build large industrial systems but could organize a community planting day.

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Betterment and Praxis Five 1 year ago 100%
Recipes for Disaster: Asphalt Mosaics crimethinc.com

A Hot Weather Activity for Lonely Asphalt Near You

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Betterment and Praxis loopy 1 year ago 100%
new community: Family and Friends of Persons with Addiction (fafopwa)

An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction. !fafopwa@vlemmy.net Just thought I’d share an avenue for Beehaw members that may be interested. Please direct me to a different place to post if this would be better suited elsewhere.

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Betterment and Praxis Powderhorn 1 year ago 100%
The importance of knowing when to inject yourself into a conversation you happen to be overhearing

I've been, more or less, on a journey of self-discovery and self-improvement over the past year after hitting rock bottom. My journey has included psilocybin that alleviated addiction and much of my anxiety — and allowed the further work I'd been needing to do for well over a decade. By the end of April, I felt like I was vaguely aware of what I wanted to do and ready to engage, but lacking any sense of how to find "it." A week later, I posted on Reddit about a local sale on rice and beans that got the most upvotes of anything I'd ever posted there. What came into specific relief was there was still a market for "news you can use" that I know how to help (I'm not wont to take screenshots of ads, but it was 5 pounds of food for like $3.66 in a subreddit where food insecurity was a frequent topic and no one looks at the circular anymore); no improvement on the "how." I toyed with the idea of (and bought a domain for) a cooperative of experienced journalists operating under "staff" bylines covering just the news scaling from city to city by word of mouth as direct (i.e., Patreon) subscriptions grow to cover an additional living wage position. Not being at all knowledgeable about grants for seed funding, I reached out to a former colleague who's been in the VC space for a bit now who confirmed there was a "there" there but was of course not connected to that world. A project review at work kept getting pushed back on automation I'd done and had been maintaining for a few months in the vain hope that this would unlock more money and automation opportunities (there are none). The rumblings about Reddit started, and I decided if I was learning about an alternative *on* Reddit (which is 100% what Lemmy as a whole was being sold as in very early June), I was already behind the curve. Someone suggested Beehaw, so I looked around, thought "this looks nice," and signed up. I was days away from uninstalling Discord ... the servers I was active on are long gone, and it was down to my college roommate, who also talks to me on Steam, thus: no use case. Still, I did miss the "good old days" of Discord and figured it couldn't hurt to have people to talk to while maintaining feed sanity. So I responded to news links posted there and ended up getting in discussions with admins (mostly @Alyaza) about my "take" on news, though I'd not really been paying attention to community operations to that point. I really liked what I heard, and it felt like I was in agreement with the admins on overall goals for news. From the other side, it might be tempting to think that what happens next is I immediately notice they are looking for U.S. News moderators and apply. At the risk of coming off as contratrian: Au contraire. And I do want to stop here, because this is a moment I have now had three times in my life ... that I know of. When you've actually been honest with yourself about your next goal and take that first step that in hindsight seems so tiny as to be forgotten if it had led anywhere else, consigned to the ether where faded memories become incoherent, there is an inflection point. It has been, for me, a time when I have to make what seems *to me* like a minor faux pas under ordinary circumstances, but in that moment seems like the only thing any reasonable person *could* do. And why does it seem like a faux pas? Self-doubt. What others consider "normal," I often consider pushy. So inserting yourself into a conversation or asking a stranger for a favour is something ordinary people do daily. I do not. I like to be in the background, being snide and efficient — hence the copy desk. So I'm poking around the channels on Discord and happen upon #governance (I think for the first time), where it has just been explained to someone else that mod responsibilities take marginally more time than just being an all-day user. Here's the lightbulb. It's literally being handed to me. It is on the screen exactly then, I am here, and U.S. News starts tomorrow. If I cannot take this as the opportunity I've been waiting for to get people's expectation of news back to "boring shit people need to know + disasters," this is exactly where I start to share the blame for my life not moving forward. In fact, I wasn't really expecting to get the green light to go all the way there (aim high for your starting point, right?), had no manifesto primed and only first heard confirmation I'd been chosen just after the community was created. This was a classic Powderhorn, thrown together in 45 minutes after getting off the bus. A single point of contention led to an edit the admins were cool with, and a wildly different U.S. News sprung forth than most of the community would have expected, with the explicit goal that a focused U.S. News vision would further Beehaw's reputation for setting the bar a bit higher. Besides, so much stuff belongs elsewhere (I've yet to outright reject a story, though I've nixed a source) that it's honestly going to probably end up being disproportionately policy wonks of a particular stripe, since the activism is also elsewhere. Nonetheless, that's a community not addressed as a group anywhere else on Beehaw, however minuscule it may be. And for everyone else? U.S. News does what it says on the tin. I have achieved my overall goal of being able to start in some small manner steering the discussion of news back to actual news. Beehaw seems happy with an experienced journalist modding the domestic news section. So far, I've heard no complaints about the format from users, although one response did make my eyes moisten a little. This opened up the separation of work and accomplishment, which is at once obvious and baffling. I mean, I was a newspaper editor. I got both in eight hours; didn't everyone? Reality has been cruel. After years of being able to predict the entire day outside of work bullshit with exceptions of short bursts, things are about to become unpredictable again. But when my life is rearranged, I should feel the most free since I was in college, curious about the future instead of dreading what's to come. Would you believe that when I sat down to write this, I expected it to be half the length and have covered all three inflection points? Anyway, point being, when you really know what you want and take a first step down that path, as cheesy as it sounds, things start falling into place. Not in the "pay off your debt and dream in a few years" way; you've announced your intent, and the universe works in mysterious ways. So it's time to be ready to let all the work you've done to get here pay off. All you have to do is ask. And it'll be taken as the most natural thing ever. *As to avoid upsetting sticklers for Chekov's gun:* *First time was in the newsroom in college. I'd written a news story as a contributing writer, and the news editor was out at lunch. I was instead edited by the editor in chief; all I remember of that was the phone call just as we'd finished, which I could hear his end of while walking out of his office "... yes, we **are** looking for designers." Pretty sure it was eight days later that I woke up in the design editor's bed.* *Second time, well ... a lot of things had to line up exactly as they did, including losing my virginity to the woman I did in college and a freak ice storm where That Doesn't Happen. And that's how I met my second ex-wife.*

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Betterment and Praxis Wigglet 1 year ago 100%
Who here has made, stocked or utilised a free food pantry? www.wikihow.com

One of the things I'd like to include in thr community garden I'm working on establishing is a [food pantry](https://www.patakai.co.nz/). I'd love to have a place with recycled containers to take home garden goodies, residents to leave extra dry goods, and things like care products/toiletries. I've seen pictures of them online and read articles about them but the closest thing we have here is honesty boxes. Has anyone made one or used one? Do you have any tips? I'd love to hear some recommendations on practical designs work best or what products you wish yours had more/less of.

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Betterment and Praxis alyaza 1 year ago 100%
Rebecca's Slow Fashion Brands spreadsheet, and Rebecca's words on slow fashion (last updated late 2022) docs.google.com

this Google spreadsheet doubles as a sustainability resource, but it's generally a good starting point if you're looking to put money where your mouth is in trying to improve your clothing consumptive habits. it also has some basic, useful words defining what slow fashion is and its principles. i've transcribed these (and the major spreadsheet notes) below, for ease. #### Slow fashion > **Truly "slow" fashion should (ideally) consist of buying only a few pieces a year.** > > Slow Fashion Order of Operations: > 1. Be happy with what you have. -- Do you really need XYZ? What is it that makes you happy about what you currently have? > 2. Shop your own closet. -- There have been countless times I have thought "I need a new sweater" when the weather changes only to open my closet, dig in the back, and find heaps of sweaters. > 3. Clothing swap with friends. -- You can have a clothing swap party, or just ask friends one on one. "Do you have tons of sweaters? I do too. Can I come over and look through what you have, and you can look through mine?" > 4. Buy secondhand locally (e.g. local thrift store). -- Once you have identified a hole in your closet, check out local places to shop before heading online. (Ideally! If you have the time!) I love finding clothes secondhand. It's like treasure hunting. > 5. Buy secondhand online (BST, Poshmark, Depop, etc). -- Once you've window-shopped enough of these slow fashion brands (and adjacent), keep an eye out for your faves on secondhand apps. You can set notifications for searches and everything :) > 6. Buy directly from a company with transparent labor practices. -- **This is where this spreadsheet comes in handy... when you really need something new.** > 7. Live in the clothes you buy for a while before buying anything else new -- Simmer in that joy for as long as you can; don't get distracted by shiny objects > 8. Reject consumerism! -- Whenever you start feeling like you "have" to buy something, question it! Who does this feeling benefit? ##### On Bags > When it comes to sustainability for bags, there are a few different factors to keep in mind, and you usually have to sacrifice one factor in favor of another. Some might say the most important factor is durability – like, buy one bag, have it for life. but the durability of a bag will depend on how often you use it, how you treat the bag, where you take it, etc. like, even a very “durable” bag will still fall apart eventually if you’re rough on it for X amount of time. However, generally speaking, durability tends to have a push/pull relationship with the materials involved. like, plastics and poly fabrics are often more durable than “natural fibers” like untreated cotton or linen. > > The “most ideal compromise” here would be to look for recycled fabrics + secondhand bags which are rated highly for durability. Bag and backpack manufacturers tend to be more opaque about their supply chain and factories compared to “slow fashion” clothes-makers. and I think this comes back to that first factor – durability – which is what most people are looking for in a good solid bag. also things like, “what kind of pockets does this have,” “how does this sit on my frame,” etc. > > [...]after all this research, I was really really close to buying a topo design, baggu, or cotopaxi bag, but my partner convinced me that the best, most sustainable bag is the one that you already have, until it falls apart. and they’re right ;_; #### Notes for the spreadsheet itself > This spreadsheet is best viewed from a desktop computer (not mobile); the Google sheets app can work to view it in a pinch. Check out the secondhand sources all the way to the right & at the bottom. > > Prices are in USD and sizes are listed in US-equivalents. All of these brands definitely ship to USA and to their country of origin (if outside of USA). Almost all of them ship internationally. Please check websites to confirm. > > I picked these brands for: > - their timeless and/or completely original looks; > - the care that goes into each garment; > - the prices and availability; > - commitment to low-waste packaging; > - size-inclusivity; > - having at least a few unisex/androgynous/masculine styles; > - and a commitment to diversity in their models. > > More info about fabrics and certain high-profile slow fashion brands can be found here, as a starting point: > - https://directory.goodonyou.eco/ > - https://goodonyou.eco/ultimate-clothing-material-guide/ > - https://www.clotheshorsepodcast.com/

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Betterment and Praxis miracleorange 1 year ago 98%
Mixed feelings about giving money to houseless people

So, to get this out of the way, I'm a cisgender white man from a well-off family in a fairly affluent town. I'm making this post because I want to hear perspectives from those who are different from and likely significantly more knowledgeable than me. (Literally as I was writing this post, I came to the epiphany that I should probably more properly educate myself on socialism.) **TL;DR: What is your opinion on giving money to houseless people you see IRL?** I like to consider myself socialist/progressive in thought---in favor of wealth redistribution via various methods, live and let live, freedom for everyone as long as you're not materially harming anyone, etc.---but I grew up in a fairly conservative household (more socially than fiscally, but even then). Being in a rich area, I never really saw houseless people around unless I went to one of the nearby cities, and the general policy was keep walking and don't look. My parents definitely raised me to be kind and generous, but more in a detached "give to charity" way. Rather recently, I've really embraced this idea of being socialist, and I've become very free with giving my money in particular (though I'm aware I could do more, like join a DSA branch or somethin'). I love giving to non-profit organizations when I can, I support creators I like on Patreon. I've even started giving to people on Fedi who I've seen need money for whatever reason. Spread the wealth, right? Now, things have changed where I live, and even in my rich lil burb, you can usually find at least one refugee or houseless person when you go out to a grocery store or something. I just saw a guy who was standing outside a grocery store asking for spare change, and it was a rare occasion that I actually had cash in my wallet. On my way out, I gave it to him. Simple. But I feel weird about it. I have all these ideas in my head from White America saying that they'll just buy alcohol or drugs with it or that they're scamming me or anything else like that. Then on the other hand, I think that it's just as likely (if not *more*) that they're going to spend it on things they actually need to live and how it's not my job to police how they use their money. And then on the *third* hand, I think that maybe it would be better to donate money to organizations that help out houseless people than just giving money to random people. Then on the ***fourth*** hand---you get the idea. For those of you who actually read the whole post and didn't stop at the TL;DR, I have a few questions: 1. Why in God's name did you actually read this whole thing? 2. Are these feelings normal or am I just a self-centered prick? 3. What are your opinions on giving money to houseless people you just randomly meet? 4. As a bonus question for the socialists out there: Any recs on socialism learning resources for someone who likes reading, but doesn't like reading books? For those of you who made it all the way to the end, thank you for reading my neurotic ramblings. --- **EDIT:** I didn't really expect this to blow up... but thank you all so much for your perspectives on everything. It was exactly what I was hoping for and exactly what I didn't think I was going to get. I tried to read everything and I feel simultaneously less conflicted, but definitely more... not confused, but maybe full of ideas?

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Betterment and Praxis Wigglet 1 year ago 100%
Now that we're midway through the season, is there one small thing you can do before the end of your Summer/Winter?

Now is a good time to think about a small way you can help, even it it's just making an effort to pick up some rubbish on a walk. For me, it's winter and I start to feel a bit down from the lack of sunlight hours so i like to give myself a very small and achievable goal that can give me a little boost of serotonin. Between winter bugs, storms, and work things, I haven't been getting outside enough. I want to make an effort to go walk the local reserves at least once next month and pick up rubbish. It's small but it leaves me room to do even more if I'm feeling up to it without feeling guilty if I only have one good day of energy. What small things are you wanting to do?

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Betterment and Praxis TerryTPlatypus 1 year ago 100%
Democracy Vibe Check - WABE www.wabe.org

I was listening to the radio, and I found this podcast called Democracy Vibe Check. It's about civics and being active in your comunity. Give it a listen! The episode I was listening to was about how to nurture your community, mainly through volunteering. An interesting few renarks I heard from the episode was that you can volunteer more than time and money. You can also volunteer your talent and experiences to help out a certain group of people. Volunteering is also a great way to get new skills that can be used elsewhere in your career. This has made me think a little more deeply about how I can volunteer, and ehat strengths I can bring to volunteering. I hope this helps some of you as well, too!

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Betterment and Praxis Wigglet 1 year ago 100%
Do you like parks and rec? Go to your local community council meetings!

After giving my first presentation at our local community council meeting I've come to the conclusion that the show is a real documentary. While my presentation went great (who doesn't love a conveniently located garden and free food?!?), there was heckling of other presenters for having the audacity to get university educations on the topics they were presenting and an attempted coup on the council board by a frighteningly large group of anti 5g truthers. Ironically, making and consuming videos over their 4g. My favourite part was the community theatre group rehearsing in the next room, giving the meeting a dramatic soundtrack. My partner has had to do meetings through work and said he has had similar experiences. It was all a lot funnier when I was watching it on a screen and not real people in my community but at least I can try to make some changes i guess 😅 Communities can only thrive when a representative group of it's members are pushing for change, don't let it just be fringe groups! In times with amplified hate, its crucial for those of us who have the time and energy to go to the monthly meetings to fight for the rights of those who can't. You don't need to be overly involved or start any projects, you just need to sign up, attend some meetings and vote!

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Betterment and Praxis StringTheory 1 year ago 100%
Seven cleverly designed emergency homes around the world www.bbc.com

This isn’t something I’m doing, but it is something to keep in mind if you want to work designing or implementing emergency housing.

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Betterment and Praxis EthicalAI 1 year ago 100%
So like, what do we do? Political burnout.

I think I’m having a bit of an autistic burnout moment over politics. I’m moving a lot more left over the years but just don’t feel like I can do anything. I have 2 years left on a work contract and it would be killer to lose that job, but also I want to help people in ways where quitting might be the best option. I want to learn about politics and history more, but I also don’t want to stress about it because I don’t feel like it changes things that much. Id like a community that talks about these feelings and I feel like this should be that community for me. Let’s just chat about it.

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Betterment and Praxis Wigglet 1 year ago 100%
Beehaw, what is your favourite thing about your town?

Is it a favourite park or walking track? The library? Do you have a really fun festival that your community is known for? Tells us about it!

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Betterment and Praxis alyaza 1 year ago 100%
a map of the mini pantry/little free pantry movement http://mapping.littlefreepantry.org/

> The mini pantry movement is a grassroots, crowdsourced solution to immediate and local need. Whether a need for food or a need to give, mini pantries help feed neighbors, nourishing neighborhoods. the website also provides [steps on how to make one yourself](https://www.littlefreepantry.org/more-about-the-mini), how to promote that you've made one, and issues you may or may not run into in making one. if that's not comprehensive enough for you, here's [an even bigger list](https://www.littlefreepantry.org/resources-1) of resources. if you learn by video, Hallmark Channel also has a video linked on the website: [DIY Little Free Pantry - Home & Family](https://youtu.be/ygFjqJHoZK8) and of course, if one already exists nearby and you don't have the resources to make one? stock it up! or take what you need from it!

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Betterment and Praxis EthicalAI 1 year ago 100%
Start a Coop! No better way to make some money and fight capitalism. www.start.coop

This is just one good resource. I’d recommend the social.coop mastodon instance for more!

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