ADHD ADHD I made a realization about why it's so frustrating to explain ADHD to neurotypical people.
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    Gaslighting is actually pretty close in terms of what short term memory issues are like. Except you can never be sure if it's just ADHD brain, or something is actually different.

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    ADHD Shift_ 1 year ago 100%
    I made a realization about why it's so frustrating to explain ADHD to neurotypical people.

    I was chatting with a friend and tried to convey how crippling a really bad day (for me at least) can be. I needed tangible examples that really drive the point home. So I started making a list. Sensory Overload: In a room filled with flashing lights, loud overlapping music, and strong scents, read a few book pages without stopping. Physical Restlessness: Try to stay standing with elastic bands around your legs and arms, as they slowly pull away and begin to stretch. Memory Maze: While navigating an obstacle course, remember a series of numbers or words. At the end, recall the series in the correct order. Time Blindness Race: Complete a task without access to a clock or timer. While periodically being rushed or falsely warned of time running out I realized that if I were to do any combination of these to a person all at once, it starts to fulfill the legal defenition of torture. That's when it hit me. It's so frustrating because it can be so intensely afwul, and you know that if they were to experience it for a day, they would be a crying mess by the end of it. Granted, these examples are extreme, and I'm sure someone out there could do these and be fine. But how long could they keep it up? It may be easier some days, but others it is truly debilitating. This is probably old news for some, but I've only recently had to talk to people about it. It makes me so angry that they can just blow it off. Lucky for me my friend is very empathetic and understood what I was trying to get across.

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    gaming Gaming What type of game do you want to play that doesn't really exist?
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    Especially since it already has party mechanics built in. Why can't they just swap out pawns for your friends? I get it wouldn't really fit the story, but that can be handwaved.

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  • gaming Gaming What type of game do you want to play that doesn't really exist?
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    A lighthearted and colorful Soulslike RPG with actual multiplayer. I want to run around in a BotW/TotK style world and go adventuring with friends, while still feeling like the combat is challenging. I want to be able to head into a dangerous dungeon with friends and not be sure we'll make it out, while having a more storybook fantasy vibe. Too many game opt for gritty apocalypse worlds. The recent Zeldas show that you don't need to go grimdark to have a compelling fantasy world, while still retaining a save the world vibe.

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  • ADHD ADHD At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.
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    🫂
    It's good to hear people are getting the help they need.

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy What's the benefit of using Kbin over Lemmy?
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    The Artemis app is in beta and it's looking pretty promising. Definitely still some bugs, but the UI is dead simple and easy to customize. Switching to a subbed only view works well too. The official mag is m/artemisapp

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  • cyberpunk2077 Cyberpunk 2077 Will just keep posting here until people have some things to talk about. 😃
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    The game is actually very close to what it promised initially. Obviously some things just aren't possible (you can't open every door to every building unfortunately) but cyberpunk has really come into it's own in the past few years. Not to mention that Phantoms Liberty is going to essentially be a soft relaunch along with a whole new story and world map. I'd say it's at least worth a couple more hours of trying it out.

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy Homebrew insulin or diy 3D printed meat?
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  • Shift_ Shift_ 1 year ago 100%

    Now I'm tempted to bake a steak shaped cookie from an entire tube of cookie dough

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy What's it like working night shift?
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    I personally love working nights. I'm not a morning person by any stretch of the imagination. In fact I am actively worse at things the earlier I wake up. Conversely my brain feels clearer and more active after 10pm.

    That being said, my social life is almost entirely online. I rarely go out IRL. I sleep like a rock and only need about 6 hours anyway.

    If you are someone who needs to talk to people, has trouble sleeping during the day, or requires a lot of sleep, the night shift is likely not for you.

    Some people are built for it, some aren't.

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  • risa Risa None of you will convince me that this wasn't foreshadowing
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  • Shift_ Shift_ 1 year ago 92%

    This is a bit of a spoiler, but the guy who mentions Musk is actually from the evil mirror universe. So the second guy from the mainline universe is confused as to why Musk is on that list. He was probably a bigger figure in the mirror universe.

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  • atheistmemes Atheist Memes One of my favourites.
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    They gotta feel superior somehow, might as well dive head first into the delusion.

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    Please, I beg of you, don't call me out this hard.

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  • homeimprovement Home Improvement How do I get rid of the hard particulate matter embedded within my window screen
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  • Shift_ Shift_ 1 year ago 100%

    Pressure washer? Might be overkill, but if you get one with enough horsepower it could do the trick.

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  • ADHD ADHD At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.
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    When I first realized that ADHD was a potential cause, it was like a light turned on. I watched some videos on symptoms to see if it lined up. Let me tell you, it is surreal hearing strangers describe your life to you. Glad he could get it addressed.

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  • ADHD ADHD At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.
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    Getting checked is the first step. I hope she gets some answers soon.

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  • ADHD ADHD At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.
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    But you still got there, and we can all help each other

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  • ADHD ADHD At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.
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    So many rabbit holes, so little time.

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  • ADHD ADHD At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.
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    I'm waiting for an appointment with my psychiatrist to talk about what would work. Hopefully in 2 weeks I'll start and I can begin the process of dialing in a dosage.

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  • ADHD ADHD What is the most annoying ADHD trait that you have?
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    Not being able to retain basic information for more than a few seconds.

    Oh, your name is [name] and you need [item]? Too bad, I'll forget both of those things as soon as I turn around

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    At 32 I've finally gotten an official diagnosis.

    I wasn't able to get it checked out earlier in my adult life due to being a independent contractor for so long (*american healthcare.... yay*). Now though, I've got the time and the insurance to cover everything. It's actually a relief to know that it's not just me being incompetent. Now I wait for a prescription and hope that sets me on the right path.

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    daystrominstitute Daystrom Institute If you believe what Janeway did to Tuvix was wrong, does Spock get a pass?
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    Yes, finally, some common sense. Neelix did not consent to die for Starfleet. Tuvok did not consent to die to become Tuvix. Neither consented to staying as Tuvix, because Tuvix was his own person and could not make decisions for them.

    Nobody protests Tom and William Riker staying separate despite literally being the same person. Why not extend the same logic to Tuvok and Neelix? If a clone can be it's own person, then why is the well being of two individuals cast aside?

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  • daystrominstitute Daystrom Institute If you believe what Janeway did to Tuvix was wrong, does Spock get a pass?
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    YES!
    EXACTLY!

    Everyone wants to save Tuvix because they like him. But nobody wants to save Tuvok or Neelix. They didn't consent to dying so Tuvix could live. If you agree Tuvix is a person, then you cannot disregard that so were Tuvok and Neelix. Where was their funeral? Does Tuvok's family not get it's husband and father back because the crew liked Tuvix better? The two people who's opinion mattered the most couldn't be consulted. If Tuvix is a person, his judgement on the matter is simply too biased as his sense of self preservation would interfere with objective decision-making.

    To save Tuvix was to murder Tuvok and Neelix.

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  • artshare Art Share🎨 Just finished this desert painting, would you like to ignore my artwork as hard as Reddit and Insta do :)?
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    This reminds me of a line in Forrest Gump.

    "And then in the desert, when the sun comes up, I couldn't tell where heaven stopped and the earth began."

    It's beautiful

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  • gaming Gaming Starfield physical release won't include physical disc
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    Electricity can be generated sustainably. Rare earth metals can be recycled. We are working on alternatives to fossil fuels. Environmental issues aren't a zero sum game. You don't "Lose" just because something else also pollutes. It's an issue that is worked on systematically. Could it be a lot faster? Yes of course. But we work with what we have.

    Data centers are also multi-use. You don't build a data center just to house your game. You pay for the space in one that already exists. A company can choose to make software available on a platform that is open to a large portion of the world, or it can spend cash and resources shipping boxes of plastic all over the world. The pollution and waste generated by shipping something across an ocean massive. Do you really want to put all that into the air so you can have the plastic circle?

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  • gaming Gaming Starfield physical release won't include physical disc
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    How often does that happen these days though? Trading in games or lending to friends hasn't been worth it for a while. Trades are worth a handful of dollars and if your friends are adults they can probably afford their own game anyway. We cling too much to an era where people could still believe the earth would be fine. It's a hobby, is it really worth it?

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    You're absolutely right. All these people shouting about "back in my day we owned games!" are forgetting that games have to be manufactured. Is all that plastic and pollution worth having a plastic rectangle with a different plastic circle in it? At the end of the day once you've played the game that's it, it's yours. Your experience is unique and it can't be taken away, don't cling to manufactured waste when what you cherish are the memories.

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  • dnd Dungeons and Dragons Good way to incorporate possible missing players?
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    I'm running a game for a discord server and by its nature people will drop in and out. So I wrote it into the overarching plot. Reality is literally coming apart at the seams. Objects and creatures from other worlds have been leaking in. At the same time things have been dissappearing without a trace. Not just stuff either, an entire city just vanished in a flash of green light. A powerful wizard is investigating and needs adventurers to go out and do the grunt work. They've been traipsing about the planes trying to find the missing city and some clue as to what is happening.

    There's also a monk who's working for the wizard. His job is to escort adventurers where they are needed via portals, meaning people will occasionally appear mid-adventure. Sometimes people slip out of reality. They experience it as a few seconds but the real time elapsed varies.

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  • memes Memes *Permanently Deleted*
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    Holy run-on sentence. Also it sounds like it's the measuring device that doesn't support newer the newer OS, not the other way around. Also migrating a database is possible, it just takes a ton of work.

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  • maliciouscompliance Malicious Compliance The EU forced Apple to allow users to replace their own batteries, Apple did so by making the process as troublesome for users as possible.
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    It's really just par for the course with Apple. They've been making their products hostile to repair for years. One of the more egregious examples being the iPhone 4. The cable that connected the display to the mainboard was strung between the two so that when the phone was opened, any inexperienced user or repair-person would likely tear it in half. To say nothing of error 53, an error that came up when attempting to replace the home button with a non-official part, despite not selling official parts.

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  • asklemmy Asklemmy What are some good ways to be less depressed?
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    Everyone will recommend the same stuff to you over and over without asking if you've tried any of it before. The truth is, if you can get access to them, anti-depressants are pretty great. They aren't a magic solution, but they do make it manageable. Coping strategies and excersise only work if you are in a place to even get up and try it.

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  • coffee Coffee Does anyone else enjoy mediocre work coffee machine coffee?
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    A machine that grinds beans? You have been blessed by the workplace coffee gods! My work has a keurig and a fine selection of watery swill cups. I just brought my secondary setup from home. No amount of sugar or milk will fix K-cups.

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  • lemmy Lemmy Reddit Sync Dev Gauging Interest on Developing Sync for Lemmy
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    I'd be 100% down to buy Sync pro again for a Kbin Sync.

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  • technology Technology Young People Have No Idea What We Used to Do After Work. Let Me Regale You.
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    Ugh, more "get off my lawn" articles. There are tons of young workers who will 100% ignore their employer the second they clock out. Anyone who has the option to do so, and complains about constantly being pinged, has no boundaries and frankly deserves it.

    Your employer doesn't own you, you can turn off your notifications.

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  • science Science A white supremacist took MDMA for a study, and it snapped him out of his beliefs: 'Why am I doing this?'
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    Mhhm, yup, people already on a myriad of medications definitely won't have any adverse reaction to MDMA and there are no medications that have negative interactions with it at all. And people with incredibly fragile mental states, the already suicidal, and people of varying different psychoses also definitely aren't already close to being a danger to themselves and others. Oh and how can we forget all the people who absolutely don't have unknown medical conditions that could be exacerbated by getting dosed with MDMA

    Totally safe, totally cool

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  • science Science A white supremacist took MDMA for a study, and it snapped him out of his beliefs: 'Why am I doing this?'
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    Or, huge amounts of people will kill themselves or die due to medical completications.

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  • memes Memes I created this meme just for posting and testing how you can see your posts across apps.
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    Seen from Kbin.

    Also...

    Reeeeedditoooooors! Come out and plaaaaaaayyyyyy

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  • memes Memes I created this meme just for posting and testing how you can see your posts across apps.
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    Seen from Kbin.

    Also...

    Reeeeedditoooooors! Come out and plaaaaaaayyyyyy

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  • technology Technology Majority of Americans Would Like to Return to Time Before Cell Phones, Internet, According to New Poll
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    This is the heart of the issue. People don't feel like they are allowed to take time to themselves. In reality all it takes is not answering the messages if you don't feel like it. Hell, you don't even have to look at them.

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  • technology Technology Majority of Americans Would Like to Return to Time Before Cell Phones, Internet, According to New Poll
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    Anyone I talk to regularly, would not care if I didn't answer their texts for a few days. My phone is always on vibrate or silent. I engage with people only as much as I want to.

    What I'm saying is all that stuff can be changed if you want it to.

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  • dnd Dungeons and Dragons D&D introduction at work - one shot ideas needed!
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  • Shift_ Shift_ 1 year ago 100%

    The YouTube channel Pointy Hat recently had their 100,000 sub special on the Feywild. They created a short adventure (1-2 sessions, obo 3-4 hours each) set in the Feywild. The video it's attached to is kind of long (~40 min) but is an excellent look at the Feywild. The actual portion covering the adventure gives tips on running it as well. I've read it over and it's pretty well put together.

    Video link in case you're interested. The adventure is in a link in the description.

    Same goes for Ginny Di's Steal This Sidequest. It's shorter and easier to scale too.

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  • chat Chat I'm tired of dogs. I just don't like them.
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    It's similar to why I get looks for disliking cats. People love their pets and confuse disliking a type of animal for disliking their pet in particular.

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  • chat Chat I'm tired of dogs. I just don't like them.
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    This sounds more like you dislike badly trained dogs/inattentive owners. Dogs that are well behaved and trained don't do any of that.

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    My baby girl in her favorite spot
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