Why do people think Egg culture and Egging people is Okay? [TW:Homophobia, Misgendering]
To clarify what I mean, I as a Femboy have had people very aggressively try and say that I am a "trans girl in-denial" because of the fact that I dress like a girl.
Why is this behavior seen as okay or acceptable in the community, when it pushes very hurtful gender stereotypes onto people? Some people say it's to help people who are actually in denial but that seems wrong and contradictory because I've also heard that the way someone identifies needs to be respected, so in that regard the idea of challenging and gaslighting people who are perceived as being "in-denial" isn't respecting their identity. Also there's the whole part about dismantling harmful gender stereotypes when the whole idea of Egg culture actually forces these onto people with the idea that dressing as a girl makes someone a girl when that simply isn't true and it is about identifying that way, not about conformity.
The worst ones I've experienced though were heteronormity, because I am also gay I was told that it's a sign that I'm a girl because "boys aren't attracted to boys" yes I was hit with homophobia and the people doing tried to use it as an example of why I must be trans.
I should note that this behavior has been very rare both here on lemmy.ca and on lemmy.blahaj.zone, most of the really bad stuff has happened to me from Reddit and IRL friends, I've also seen quite a bit on raddle.me but I don't have an account or presence there (thankfully).
Seriously I'd really like to know why people think this is okay, I know some people think it can be helpful or beneficial but I don't see how something that causes severe stress, discomfort, and self-doubt can be beneficial i.e.
Oh Sweetie, stop lying to yourself you're not a boy, boys don't act like that. No matter how much you deny it you're already a girl. All you need is HRT to give you boobs and bottom surgery.
You're attracted to boys? That's not very cis, you dress and act like a girl and if you're also attracted to boys that indicates that you are definitely a girl. You need to accept that you are trans whether you like it or not.
She's so totally in denial, I mean just look at her, it's so clear that she's a girl, yet she thinks that she's a tr*p. One day she'll figure it all out and feel so stupid.
Yeah these and plenty of the other ones like them really made me feel gross and uncomfortable, definitely disrespected. I really don't see how any of these could be felt as supportive or compassionate when they are so cold and harsh and have so little consideration for the person receiving them.